I hear it all the time “I can’t find a man because I intimidate men.” Believe me, I know this because I used to say it until I realized that all men, including successful, powerful businessmen and Alpha males, can’t be intimidated by me. Was I perhaps making excuses for actually pushing men away? Maybe some of my actions were actually turning men off and they just couldn’t wait for the date to be over so they could cut and run.
Many accomplished women forget how to turn the high powered executive off and be a vulnerable, feminine woman on a date and/or in a relationship. Why can this be a problem? Men ultimately still want to feel like the protector/hunter/gatherer. They desire to help a damsel in distress sometimes. Men want to help us, make us laugh, hold us when we are sad, etc. They want a feminine woman who can be silly, vulnerable, attentive and loving. A woman who “needs” them. OUCH! Yes, I said it….”need”. Lose the other silly saying,”I don’t need a man”, as well. We are so hung up on the details of certain words. If you want a relationship, then you “need” to want to love someone else and be loved, share your happy times, heartaches and compliment each other by bringing cool things to the table to teach and experience with each other.
Please don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. You don’t need to lose the successful, edgy woman who you are, you just need to balance it out with the softer girly side in you as well. On the flip side, If you don’t want a relationship and are happy being alone, then go for it! 🙂 That’s fine too…be happy. This blog is addressing women who want to meet men for relationships.
The bottom line is if we are telling men that we are completely independent, don’t need a man, tell them how to fix and/or run their business and life, talk about how accomplished and successful we are in business, etc., don’t appreciate what he brings to the table, he’s going to lose interest quickly. He can get all of that awesomeness at work.;-)
Ladies, it’s amazing how far we have come and the outstanding accomplishments we have all attained in our lives!! Let’s just not forget the vulnerable, little girl inside us who wants prince charming to ride in on his white horse and give us that huge kiss that snaps us out of our workaholic, “me” focused slumber and reminds us that there is more to life then just work and the daily grind.